Is it ok to be a Di*k when...

[TOOLGUY]

I just joined back up with some old band mates to jam/potentially do a few gigs.
We have a very limited timeset to practice (actually in a garage in a tight spaced neighborhood) so we need to be in/out/done by nightfall.Everyone got cd's and tab for all the songs we are doing.

Last practice I spent most of the set teaching the Lv/2nd guitar player "what to play" for a bunch of songs.To add to it he decided that pounding beers was gonna help things out. (not that I don't like a beer or five).
I ended up getting pretty frustrated by mid. set and pretty much told him it was up to him to learn this ****....got tagged as a Dick and some words were exchanged between the drummer him and I :roll: .
Next practice is pending,I spent ALL week learning both parts so
I can help out if need be. Should I be the better guy and just deal with it (none of us can sing after all) or am I in the right here?

BTW..we are all old buds so I think we would purge the band before it starts to mess up any relationships.

 

[talltxguy]

I've found that some people have this romanticized version of what being a band is and means; and I've even been one of those fools that put the partying in front of the music. Nobody was gonna convince me that anythig was more important than partying and trying to "invoke the muse." :lol:

Some people are able to party and still be great at whatever they do. I am not one of those people. It sounds like your bandmate is not either. I ended up burning some wonderful musical bridges.

Anyway, I don't think you're being a di*k; I think you're serious about your music. Yeah, maybe you could have been more polite or whatever in telling him to stop being a dunce, but then you'd be a di*k and a fake.

Good luck, dude!

 

[screamingdaisy]

If you're going to be serious about your music then you're going to need serious bandmates.

Nothing is more frustrating than trying to be serious when others don't want to (and vice versa). It'll pay off in the long run to get this sorted out right away rather than try to ignore it and have it burst out later on. Lay down ground rules so that everyone goes in with the same expectations. I prefer to treat it like it's a business arrangement, in part because I don't like playing with people who are unprofessional enough to get drunk and/or act excessively foolish when they're being paid to entertain.

This isn't saying it can't be fun.... just that I like a certain amount of professionalism attached to my name.

 

[TOOLGUY]

Strange.. Got an email this afternoon from the LV telling me he has been practicing all week. (I don't think he knows of this forum lol).
Gonna do the group meeting thing this weekend before we start and see where
everyones mindset is.
Thanks guys.